Esercitare una genitorialità coniugale per trasmettere identità di genere
Maria Cruciani
The profound cultural changes that have brought to the decline of parsonsian stereotypes and to the gender ideology in the western world raise to parents the question of gender identity transmission. Recent studies have shown the importance of conjugal parenthood during a child’s growth, highlighting the use of conjugality as a relevant matter during a child’s education. Education is essentially a form of intergenerational identity transmission through the narration of a conjugal story that stimulates in a child a sense of belonging with his parents’ relationship. The relational concept in which a child begins to recognise himself is therefore characterized by the interaction between two opposing sexual identities that convey two mutually corresponding relationship models. A model, unlike a role, aims to arouse appreciation of embodied values and the desire of achieving them by lobbying with the subject’s affective consciousness. In that prospective the parental couple’s relationship represents the best way to transmit gender identity. The conjugal relationship, characterized by the highest level of intimacy and reciprocal otherness in common humanity, leads both of the spouses towards a progressive recognition and appreciation of their own specific peculiarities. The child, finding himself within his parents’ relationship, learns to understand the complementarity between a male and a female and is therefore stimulated to recognize and appreciate the specific human mode written inside himself. The sense of reciprocal complementarity of virility and femininity is understood by the child thanks to existential contact with the vital relationship in which he finds himself, not because of a standardization stress linked to a social division of roles. The path to take is the via pulchritudinis, showed by Pope Francesco (cfr. Evangelii gaudium, 167): to show the beauty of a relationship in which reciprocal complementarity between a male and a female highlights and valorises the two most different existing modes in which a human being is given to himself.
Keywords
Sexual education, Parenthood, Gender identity, Family.